Yesterday's post led me to think about energy ebbs and flows. Although I didn't have this problem before I began taking medication fifteen years ago, and even though I'm off most everything, the problem has remained.
So...when I have a bit too much energy, if I'm not careful (and I've learned to control this to a great degree), I over-commit myself. It used to be a huge problem, so I vividly remember the worst of this behavior.
Suffice it to say that it's one thing to enthusiastically embrace new projects. It's quite another to commit to too many things at once, to assume a leadership position in every project, to make promises that are unrealistic, and to have to bow out (at some point) because my energy flow has begun to ebb.
As embarrassing as it used to feel, I would ultimately have to say, "I'm sorry. I've over-committed myself. I can't possibly do all the tasks I've volunteered for. So...while I'm willing to continue (or not), I need others to step forward or I'll have to step down.
When I put it this way, people truly didn't have an option, which was exactly my intention. If they said they'd help me, I'd stay involved--although to a much lesser degree. If they didn't, then I, too, would quit.
And actually it usually worked itself out. The bottom line was that I may have been over-involved, but they were usually under-involved. And that wasn't fair either--even if it was my own fault.
These days I rarely have this happen. But, there still are times when I have to learn the same lesson over again. And as painful as it feels, I've made great progress.
Question: How do you handle situations where you've over-committed yourself? What tips and advice can you give to others?