Tuesday, May 19, 2009
When a Depression Is Over (Part 1)
Last week, I talked about some of the differences I feel when I'm depressed, and when I'm not. Today, I want to share some of the things I do as a form of "reentering life" again.
1. Apologize when necessary. Sometimes, during a depression, there are things I say I'll do, but I'm unable to because I just don't have the motivation and energy. During the period of time when I was so sick so much of the time, I became tired of apologizing for not meeting people's expectations. But, these days I feel I do meet most expectations of the people I care about--much of the time. So, if I'm not able to, the moment I feel better I try and write notes or emails of apology to explain myself.
2. Catch up on milestones. Often, during a depressive episode, I miss birthdays, anniversaries, and other milestones. Again, while I used to feel really bad about this, I don't any more. The fact is that I do the best I can. However, once a depression is over, I try and catch up by sending cards and/or gifts to people whose milestones I've missed. Over time I've learned that a belated card or gift is better than none at all. So, in the last few days, I've bought and mailed two gifts, one card, and one note-of apology.
3. Write an extended "To Do" list. When I'm not depressed, I'm really well-organized so this isn't a difficult task for me. But, the top things on my list are usually dentist appointments to get my teeth cleaned, doctor's appointments I need to catch up on, a haircut appointment to get my hair colored and styled, and so forth and so on. So, today, I made three doctor's appointments, and I'm trying to find a new hair cutter and colorist and will make that appointment this week as well.
For some people, I know that bill paying is an issue, and for others it's housework. But, my husband pays all the bills in our family. And, knowing how important a clean house is to my husband and son, I never let things go--even during a severe depression. In fact, I could write an entire post on Laundry Therapy, but who would read it?
(to be continued)
P.S. I'm out and about most of the day, but I'll respond to comments as soon as I return.