The quote, "You can't heal a story," comes from Stephen Wolinsky and is one of many wonderful quotes found in If the Buddha Got Stuck: A Handbook for Change on a Spiritual Path by Charlotte Kasl, Ph.D.
There is so much about this book I like, so I will share another quote with you--from the chapter Notice the Stories You Tell Yourself. "Buddhism teaches us to be aware of the stories we tell ourselves. Stories are usually about the past or center around wishful thinking. They take us into our heads and stop us from being in our current experience with our feelings and emotions. It's like commenting on life rather than living it.
"Because is a common word in many stories. 'I can't swim because someone scared me as a child.' 'I don't push myself because I don't want to outshine my family.' 'I can't lose weight because I'm afraid of intimacy.' The internal response to such statements could well be, 'How do you know?' 'What have you tried?'"