I believe one of the reasons I have recently felt under the weather is because in my attempt to figure out if any of the bipolar books in my home library offer positive advice for wellness, I have had to skim seven or eight of them. Quite honestly, aside from Marja's book, Riding the Roller Coaster: Living with Mood Disorders, there are few if any bipolar books that I find the least bit inspirational.
I could discuss in detail all the reasons I dislike these books--their initial supposition that bipolarity is a lifetime illness, the negative prognosis, lack of success stories, and chapter after chapter about all of the "challenges" we face, the burden we are to other people, the bad behavior we exhibit, and the hourly vigilance we must maintain to control our moods, deal with our anxiety, withstand our depressive episodes, and so forth and so on.
In short, what a crock!
No wonder I was ill for the entire decade I researched this illness. And despite the value I think there is in discussing bipolar behavior and working with you to develop wellness strategies, I must say that there is an alternate way to deal with bipolarity.
It is to ignore everything*** that is written about manic-depression, and do what every other survivor does--develop our own wellness techniques, pursue our life's mission, maintain relationships with people who are nonjudgmental, loving, upbeat and positive, and pursue activities and interests that are pleasurable and give our lives meaning.
Tomorrow I intend to provide some inspirational quotes from a book I'm reading and loving, A Big New Free Happy Unusual Life: Self-Expression and Spiritual Practice for Those Who Have Time for Neither, by Nina Wise. Stay tuned!
***I'd like to qualify this statement and say I believe there are some important things we all need to know--and you probably feel that way too. I'll discuss my opinions on this subject next week, and perhaps you'll share yours as well. We can also find out: What books have really helped you and why?